Can blackholes be both white and black?
The white hole is the end-life of a black hole, the (as you call it) grey area is the tunnelling.
Many dispute the existence of white holes, described inaccurately (briefly) as a black hole partly reversed. A credible explanation from highly regarded sources is given in the paper: "White Holes as Remnants: A Surprising Scenario for the End of a Black Hole" by Eugenio Bianchi, Marios Christodoulou, Fabio D'Ambrosio, Hal M. Haggard, Carlo Rovelli, (Submitted on 12 Feb 2018 (v1), last revised 17 Mar 2018 (this version, v2)):
"Quantum tunneling of a black hole into a white hole provides a model for the full life cycle of a black hole. The white hole acts as a long-lived remnant, solving the black-hole information paradox. The remnant solution of the paradox has long been viewed with suspicion, mostly because remnants seemed to be such exotic objects. We point out that (i) established physics includes objects with precisely the required properties for remnants: white holes with small masses but large finite interiors; (ii) non-perturbative quantum-gravity indicates that a black hole tunnels precisely into such a white hole, at the end of its evaporation. We address the objections to the existence of white-hole remnants, discuss their stability, and show how the notions of entropy relevant in this context allow them to evade several no-go arguments. A black hole’s formation, evaporation,
tunneling to a white hole, and final slow decay, form a unitary process that does not violate any known physics.".
Depending on the angle you view a black hole could it appear white, black or grey? I understand that matter goes in from the side and particles come out the top.
No, that is something entirely different, nothing to do with a "white hole".
If you first divide black holes into two categories based on rotation you have a Schwarzschild black hole (non-rotating) and a Kerr black hole (rotation speed > 0).
A rapidly rotating black hole has an ergosphere that dips within the Schwarzchild radius:
"The equatorial (maximum) radius of an ergosphere corresponds to the Schwarzschild radius of a non-rotating black hole; the polar (minimum) radius can be as little as half the Schwarzschild radius (the radius of a non-rotating black hole) in the case that the black hole is rotating maximally (at higher rotation rates the black hole could not have formed).".
It is because of that reason that relativistic jets eject matter from the poles. This is not visible light. It's not a white or grey hole, it's still a black hole.
Due to a number of close votes coming in I will post this brief answer before I'm locked out.